Dear Dave,
I have found it difficult to figure out a good approach to outlining my spiritual practice, because it feels like explaining my life. I have an urge to tell stories about how I came upon my beliefs, but I think that would be alittle too long. I have had to resist the urge to tell more of the history of my development. To remain succinct, here is a simplified version of the principle behind my spiritual practice:
- We all change over time. We change in demeanor, behavior, passions, interests, and what communities we are a part of. To be human is to be dynamic, thinking of ourselves or others as static limits our capacity and deprives us all of our humanity.
- Willful action shapes how we change. You can become the person you want to be through practice.
- You have the power to decide how to act, behave and respond to any given situation.
- Every moment is a chance to shape how we change and therefore who we are.
- Living by broad, well-thought-out tenets facilitates positive personal change.
- Learn from your mistakes. Reflect on them at length, for days or months if necessary, to figure out what happened and how to change yourself to be more in line with who you want to be.
- Reflect on your activities and behaviors and how they impact the world around you. Try to change your behavior so it changes the people and communities how you want them to change.
- The whole world changes over time. Our collective willful action shapes how it changes. Even small scale actions change other people’s lives, and you can never know the full positive impact of a good deed. Likewise, you can never know the full negative impact of a bad deed.
The practice of this principle is the difficult part. I have used my conscience to good effect in this, when I have the impulse to do something, I will usually check it against my conscience and a myriad of tenets that I try to live by. Then I act the way that seems to conform to those tenets, sometimes having to force myself to do it. The most trying actions where I have to hunker down and really compel myself to do are often the most rewarding. Self-control and a willingness to forgo other emotions and desires in favor of conforming to my practice has been essential in seeing my ability to shape myself become reality. Likewise, awareness of what I am doing and keeping my practice always in the back of my mind is essential.
Perhaps my greatest experiment in my spiritual practice has been with the Golden Rule. I started trying to live by the Golden Rule when I was 15. And it, more than any other tenet, has pushed me to the limit of being the person I want to be. It has forced me to do some difficult and crazy things. When I say experiments, I indeed mean it that way. Looking at the outcomes when I fail to follow the Golden Rule versus when I keep to it has given me the utmost faith it this tenet’s ability to positively shape myself and my world. These experiments helped me be able to figure out the core tenet of my life and what I believe to be the answer to the eternal question “what is the meaning of life.”
“People” are my purpose. That one word encompasses a wide variety of issues, but in short, it means a devotion to other people, helping them, protecting them, and putting others before myself. Here are the tenets I feel flow from this purpose:
- Generosity is a tenet that has produced more happiness in my life than I can even conceive of. I now even get great joy from the search for people to receive. This includes being generous of myself and of my time, not just the property that happens to be in my possession.
- Anti-materialism. This helps alot with following generosity, but it basically means not being attached to possessions and being willing to part with them at any moment. I have even started trying to re-interpret theft as surprise, unintentional giving to the thief. Focusing on objects prevents us from seeing the humanity in each other.
- Forgiveness of everything as soon as it happens. This not only helps the other person heal but is of huge value in maintaining strong social bonds and one’s own positive outlook.
- Being stable. I think this is the Buddhist part of my practice. I try to remain calm and unmoved by events and maintain an emotional baseline of happiness. I consciously let go of frustration and anger, which forgiveness is key in. Being stable helps the people around me immensely, I have found.
- Awareness of others and what is probably going on in their minds. Trying to determine how they feel and what they think based on what I have observed.
- Activism. Personal interactions go a long way in changing the world, and bringing that to a larger arena as part of a group is very powerful.
- Investing myself in the projects and activities I do and in the people around me.
- Silence. Being careful with words and listening to other people more than talking. This shows to other people that you value what they think, as well as makes them value your words more.
- Non-violence in word and thought as well as in physical presence.
- Truth. Not lying beyond white lies.
- Humanization. When I think of other people, no matter who they are or what they have done, I try to humanize them in my mind, not letting myself write them off as bad people. Seeing myself in other people is another way of saying this.
- Faith that the universe is dominated by good, and reminding myself of this.
- Reflecting on everything. On my behavior, others behavior, consequences of any given action, tenets etc. This includes the development of self-knowledge and an understanding of oneself.
- Being non-judgmental. Being judgmental gets in the way of seeing other people as full human beings, and it burdens you with unpleasant feelings and emotions. Forgiveness helps alot with maintaining a non-judgmental outlook. Besides, I feel like reality deals out harsh judgements and punishments to people as it is, I see no reason to add to that misery.
There are probably lots of other tenets, but those are most of the important ones that I could think of off the top of my head. I would say as far as the practice goes, it is a continuous process. I am always practicing, trying to make every action deliberate and in-line with who I want to be. That is really all it boils down to... if you want to become someone else, practice being that person in your daily life and one day you will see yourself a changed person. I am also always re-examining the principle and tenets behind my spiritual practice, looking for faults or situations that contradict it. This has helped me maintain confidence in it and improving it when there is an issue.
I hope that short summary was what you were looking for.
peace,
Will